Baby, what's your age?

raikyuu · Post by **raikyuu** » 12 Jul 2017, 10:29

gali wrote: I agree. Being his girlfriend, she should have been part of the equation, in my view. Also, I found their dialogues rather cold and dry.

I'm glad I'm not alone in my opinion on their dialogues. It would be interesting to know the "girlfriend's" role (or purpose) in the story, because I feel like she's just an extra (although this seems to be going off-topic). It's still up to Elias's decision in the end, whether she had a significant role or not.

Jax14 · Post by **Jax14** » 12 Jul 2017, 11:17

I was a very mature 18 year old when I met my husband to be who was 29 at the time. Some people did look at us very strangely but the age gap has actually worked in our favour and we have been together for 21 years and married for 16!

gali · Post by **gali** » 12 Jul 2017, 11:26

raikyuu wrote:
gali wrote: I agree. Being his girlfriend, she should have been part of the equation, in my view. Also, I found their dialogues rather cold and dry.
I'm glad I'm not alone in my opinion on their dialogues. It would be interesting to know the "girlfriend's" role (or purpose) in the story, because I feel like she's just an extra (although this seems to be going off-topic). It's still up to Elias's decision in the end, whether she had a significant role or not.

I agree. A pity the authors didn't expand on that angle.

-- July 12th, 2017, 7:27 pm --

Jax14 wrote:I was a very mature 18 year old when I met my husband to be who was 29 at the time. Some people did look at us very strangely but the age gap has actually worked in our favour and we have been together for 21 years and married for 16!

Nice! I am glad it worked out for you so well.

Athena Moon · Post by **Athena Moon** » 12 Jul 2017, 11:35

Some of us age faster and, honestly, wisdom cannot be counted by years, only by experience we go through. I felt said to discover her age as their love is forbidden by law. I, myself when I was 13 fell in love with a guy twice older than me. It is truly hard to maintain such relationship and even impossible, but the things he taught me served a good lesson. I've been dating the ones much younger and older than I, but it has never been a problem, because I, like Elias, fall in love with the soul.

22kcox · Post by **22kcox** » 12 Jul 2017, 15:49

Its hard to believe he would have felt the same if he had known she was underage. When they're too young to know who they are as a person, how can you fall truly and deeply for them? Always follow the rule of seven! Take your age and divide it by two and then add 7. That is the youngest age you should date.

Yoli García · Post by **Yoli García** » 12 Jul 2017, 17:42

I found it super awarkard to learn that Malika was only 13 years old. I thought: "How he didn't notice?!" I suspected something was out of place by how she expressed herself. I didn't like that part of the story, and I think their relationship wouldn't have worked either way.

When I dated in college, I didn't care if the guys were a year younger than me. My husband is two years older than me. Personally, I never thought of dating someone much older or younger than me because I think that the life stages would be too different.

StanLaurel · Post by **StanLaurel** » 12 Jul 2017, 17:59

Yolimari wrote:I found it super awarkard to learn that Malika was only 13 years old. I thought: "How he didn't notice?!" I suspected something was out of place by how she expressed herself. I didn't like that part of the story, and I think their relationship wouldn't have worked either way.

When I dated in college, I didn't care if the guys were a year younger than me. My husband is two years older than me. Personally, I never thought of dating someone much older or younger than me because I think that the life stages would be too different.

One to two years is practically the same age so nobody should care about that.

kateysaysyep · Post by **kateysaysyep** » 12 Jul 2017, 23:54

I'm 24. Most of the men I date are 2 to 8 years older than me. I personally do not date younger guys because they tend to be emotionally less mature than myself, and that doesn't appeal to me. I've dated one guy that was one year younger than me. It did not go well.

gali · Post by **gali** » 12 Jul 2017, 23:57

Yolimari wrote:I found it super awarkard to learn that Malika was only 13 years old. I thought: "How he didn't notice?!" I suspected something was out of place by how she expressed herself. I didn't like that part of the story, and I think their relationship wouldn't have worked either way.

When I dated in college, I didn't care if the guys were a year younger than me. My husband is two years older than me. Personally, I never thought of dating someone much older or younger than me because I think that the life stages would be too different.

I thought like you about the pair and didn't like that part either. I also think that their relationship wouldn't have worked.

Heidi M Simone · Post by **Heidi M Simone** » 13 Jul 2017, 07:13

I agree with several here - if Elias had known her age, I don't think he would've pursued Malika. Also, she must have been a very mature-looking thirteen-year-old. I worked with thirteen-year-olds, as a teacher, and I thought it was pretty obvious that they were much younger than me.

Age doesn't matter to me. It just so happens my hubby is a year older than me, but he could've been several years older and I would still have fallen for him.

He was my first boyfriend since I never made connection before him, but I would still say that age wouldn't matter even back then.

The only concern I would have for someone dating someone underage would be the maturity of the underage person and the honor the adult has. For example, it wouldn't be right for an adult to take advantage of someone who is naive, underage person, and doesn't really understand relationships.

kislany · Post by **kislany** » 14 Jul 2017, 10:11

I met my husband when I was 27. He is 19 years old than me. I don't have problems with this age difference, although I know people who do.

Kinnera · Post by **Kinnera** » 15 Jul 2017, 06:14

Yes, it is a factor. I'd rather go for somebody closer to me in age, because otherwise I feel as if I'm being too goofy for that age group, which I don't include in mine.

Steph K · Post by **Steph K** » 15 Jul 2017, 17:49

As you get older, a bigger age gap is less of an issue. With Elias and Malik's it was a huge issue! I don't want to date anyone too much younger or older than me because our needs and wants in a relationship would be too different. When you are an adult an age gap up to 10 years isn't a big deal. More than that and people will start thinking one of you is a gold digger!

Shireks Nancy · Post by **Shireks Nancy** » 16 Jul 2017, 00:52

The love that blooms at a younger age lasts longer. In my opinion, it is okay to fall in love with someone younger than you, as long as you can protect her innocence until she is old enough to understand that you love him or her.

Kdonegan91 · Post by **Kdonegan91** » 16 Jul 2017, 23:45

I agree that age gaps matter particularly when the people are young. However, I believe it really depends on the maturity of the two people. For an example, someone who is 30 dating a 35 year old wouldn't be a huge deal. On the other hand, a 15 year old and a 20 year old have a huge maturity gap.