Baby, what's your age?

ritah · Post by **ritah** » 17 Jul 2017, 05:37

I was shocked and disappointed to find out she was only 13 years old going through what she was going through and also because I realized then that there wouldn't be any possibility for a relationship to bloom for them as she was just a child and Elias a grown man. I was however happy that when Elias found out she was underage he decided to keep distance and rightfully so.

Jeconiaomolo · Post by **Jeconiaomolo** » 17 Jul 2017, 06:48

I think with romantic relationships, Elias had to be shocked. Because imagine your age is 26 years and you want date a 13yrs child. Actually I myself I can't date anybody 5 years younger than me. And since gentlemen will not like to engauge with older ladies, am inside their blankets.

Gichorabram · Post by **Gichorabram** » 17 Jul 2017, 07:51

A difference of 3 or 4 years doesn't matter. But the age gap should better not surpass 4 years.

Riki · Post by **Riki** » 17 Jul 2017, 12:39

For older relationships, specifically past the age of 18, it doesn't matter. But if an individual is below that line, say 13, then it does matter greatly because those relationships are illegal. A person can still have feelings for a younger individual despite age, but it's what a person chooses to do with those feelings. If Elias had known how young she was, I believe he wouldn't have continued a relationship. He can still have feelings for her, but ultimately I believe he wouldn't have pursued her.

Imran khan sherpao · Post by **Imran khan sherpao** » 17 Jul 2017, 16:53

Yes age does matter ..in today's society everything is going very fast ..minds are changing at very speed ..if there is age difference ,there is a difference in thoughts ,there is difference in everything

Jeremie Mondejar · Post by **Jeremie Mondejar** » 17 Jul 2017, 20:44

If it comes to love, age really don't matter. We can't control it but when it comes to the law of man, it only hurts.

Ashington Waweru · Post by **Ashington Waweru** » 18 Jul 2017, 08:50

How you can get into a relationship without knowing your partners age still beats me. I think he should have stayed with her even after discovering her age, but his leaving her just goes to prove he did not love her enough. I advocate for a ten year age difference beginning when people gain age of majority at twenty one for the bride and thirty one for the bridegroom.

MrsCatInTheHat · Post by **MrsCatInTheHat** » 18 Jul 2017, 11:45

gali wrote:
No matter his reasons, he acted nobly. I don't know if a genuine relationship could have been possible for them, as she changed too much for that. He had in mind a certain glorified image of her and once she grew out of it, he realized it wasn't meant to be.

I concur with you on this one. He definitely showed maturity in his actions, both when he first learned how old Malika was and then later on, when reunited at the concert.

-- 18 Jul 2017, 13:00 --

Riki wrote:For older relationships, specifically past the age of 18, it doesn't matter. But if an individual is below that line, say 13, then it does matter greatly because those relationships are illegal.

That really depends on where you are living. In the U.S., yes, in most states that would be illegal. Maybe even in all of them. But in other countries, 13 year old girls marry men that are much older than themselves.

livcormwidd · Post by **livcormwidd** » 18 Jul 2017, 12:31

I think had he known from the beginning he wouldn't have even began the emotional relationship they grew to have.

I think I limited myself to older people when I was younger, as I found it weird to date someone who was younger than me until I was about 20- granted he is only 4 months younger than me, but anything more than a year or even an academic year below and I would definitely not be pursuing anything.

Afuglsan · Post by **Afuglsan** » 18 Jul 2017, 12:48

I think knowing her age would have an impact on the relationship. You can still care for them, but there will always be something at the back of your mind hampering it. Again, like many have stated, once both people in the relationship grow a bit, age gaps won't matter.

Buchacha21 · Post by **Buchacha21** » 18 Jul 2017, 12:58

Age is definitely a factor for me. It may seem shallow, but I just don't think I could ever date a guy younger than me, even if it were only by a couple months. I don't know why, it just feels wrong. Society's expectations maybe?

Diarabrinson · Post by **Diarabrinson** » 18 Jul 2017, 13:11

I've always thought that age was an important factor in a relationship, but lately, it doesn't seem that big of a deal to me. Two years younger than me would be my limit. But my boyfriend now, is 3 years my senior and he constantly tells me not to worry when I ask if our age difference has significance.

Christina Rose · Post by **Christina Rose** » 18 Jul 2017, 15:49

I think age is a bigger deal when you are younger, but it becomes less of an issue and focal point later in life.

StanLaurel · Post by **StanLaurel** » 18 Jul 2017, 16:38

Buchacha21 wrote:Age is definitely a factor for me. It may seem shallow, but I just don't think I could ever date a guy younger than me, even if it were only by a couple months. I don't know why, it just feels wrong. Society's expectations maybe?

Since you're a young woman, it wasn't necessary of you to talk about going younger. you should have said if you would date much older.

Ikenna Stephen Ugwok · Post by **Ikenna Stephen Ugwok** » 18 Jul 2017, 17:09

One thing about age is that we can't do without age, must especially in times of schools and banking and all that. Age is really important in our daily life and businesses.

-- 18 Jul 2017, 17:13 --

I will tell you my age but does that matter to you? This is a question we have to ask ourselves! Age is matter in our life