Take responsability and relax.

[docfatima]

Taking responsibility of one's actions gives us a sense of freedom as we are free to do as we wish. So definitely I agree that taking responsibility will help in relieving stress.
An example can be taking responsibility for one's choice of career. When someone is forced tho opt for a career against his/ her wish, stress and anxiety are inevitable and results are not satisfactory. And when we choose our own career and take responsibility for the same, we will enjoy our work. So, stress and anxiety will be less.

[djr6090]

post by Mukukamm30 » Yesterday, 14:48

I used to blame people for the many mistakes I had made in my life. I tended to be upset with everyone and everything, but the moment I realized that I was the one to make a change, I felt a certain amount of peace and began to make a lot of progress in my life. All the tension and stress I used to feel has suddenly disappeared and I feel a lot healthier and happier.

I can relate with this. There is a point at which a person must release their control over their surroundings and the other people they encounter. My personal growth began with the recognition that the only thing I could really control was myself. It started with the attempt to finish one day without criticizing one thing. Not that I have to accept the unacceptable, or approve of the bad conduct of others, but that I needn't take it personally. You are right, the peace gives much room for progress.

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

mpsmaster wrote:
> Kei Nakagawa wrote:
> > The author really stresses that taking responsibility for our actions is
> > vital. Keeping that mindset just allows us to see through and plan ahead
> > without hurting or damaging others in the process as we get to see the
> > consequences of our actions. I think it is something that we really have to
> > keep doing.
>
> Take responsibility brings vision! Wow, loved that. Sure one can make better
> decisions and work for a better future when he sees himself as one in charge to do
> so. Thanks for bring that up!

Responsibility stands for you being in charge. Meaning you are getting more done. In return, you're moving your life away from stress and anxiety.

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

djr6090 wrote:
> post by Mukukamm30 » Yesterday, 14:48
>
> I used to blame people for the many mistakes I had made in my life. I
> tended to be upset with everyone and everything, but the moment I realized
> that I was the one to make a change, I felt a certain amount of peace and
> began to make a lot of progress in my life. All the tension and stress I
> used to feel has suddenly disappeared and I feel a lot healthier and
> happier.
>
> I can relate with this. There is a point at which a person must release
> their control over their surroundings and the other people they encounter.
> My personal growth began with the recognition that the only thing I could
> really control was myself. It started with the attempt to finish one day
> without criticizing one thing. Not that I have to accept the unacceptable,
> or approve of the bad conduct of others, but that I needn't take it
> personally. You are right, the peace gives much room for progress.

Yes, responsibility comes with acceptance. Stress and anxiety also require that the person accepts that they have a problem that needs to be addressed. I like the way Gustavo shares the practical guidelines, with acceptance and responsibility, they are easy to implement.

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

FS60 wrote:
> mpsmaster wrote:
> > Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> > > Taking full responsibility for decisions and obligations is a goal everyone
> > > should have. It narrows down to understanding your weaknesses, learning
> > > from your mistakes, and moving on when required. I'm always taking full
> > > responsibility for my actions. It's a sure way to stay out of trouble.
> >
> > Very interesting your words. One thing you said called my attention in
> particular:
> > the importance of understanding your weaknesses. I don’t recall any emphasis on
> this
> > in the book, but I do think that many people hide from themselves their
> weaknesses,
> > what creates a lot of internal pressure. I had an aunt, for example, that
> pretend
> > living a life without problems, one day she just exploded and had a 24 hours
> amnesia.
> > What do you think about this?
>
> Yeah, there are many people who hide their weaknesses instead of facing them.
> Basically, they want to portray themselves as brave people but facing weaknesses and
> figuring out them requires real courage. I have seen people who have fears but they
> never exclaimed. Just because others may not get them wrong or make fun of them.
> People should change their attitude towards each other's weaknesses and should try to
> deal them with empathy and mutual understanding. People have the fear that others may
> not consider them abnormal. We should understand that it's entirely normal to have
> some insecurities and weaknesses.

I think one of the reasons the majority fear responsibility is because it comes with a price to pay. Mostly, that means sacrifice and facing the troubles that are in line with that specific task.

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

Mukukamm30 wrote:
> I used to blame people for the many mistakes I had made in my life. I
> tended to be upset with everyone and everything, but the moment I realized
> that I was the one to make a change, I felt a certain amount of peace and
> began to make a lot of progress in my life. All the tension and stress I
> used to feel has suddenly disappeared and I feel a lot healthier and
> happier.

There's peace and joy that comes with acknowledging your inadequacies. It is that peace that also allows you to take full responsibility for the issues at hand.

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

Rosemary Okoko wrote:
> Our choice of actions determines if we will get stressed. It's upon us to
> take responsibility of our actions as it is important to not overload our
> brains. We must allocate time for relaxation.

I've discovered that taking responsibility for our situations is a way to prevent stress and anxiety. Add a natural remedy like exercise to that equation, and your days will be progressive, full of joy and peace.

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

gatuguta2030 wrote:
> I agree with the author that people should take responsibility for their
> actions. That way, anxiety will greatly reduce.

Reading this book was a responsibility by itself. If you hadn't taken it, you'd have missed all the information you are enjoying now. Isn't it clear to see that we might miss a lot of opportunities by neglecting some responsibilities?

[Joseph_ngaruiya]

I think relaxing is the hardest thing to do. You may choose to take responsibility, but staying calm when in a crisis is a bit difficult. It's a skill we should all try to learn.

[mpsmaster]

djr6090 wrote:
> post by Mukukamm30 » Yesterday, 14:48
>
> I used to blame people for the many mistakes I had made in my life. I
> tended to be upset with everyone and everything, but the moment I realized
> that I was the one to make a change, I felt a certain amount of peace and
> began to make a lot of progress in my life. All the tension and stress I
> used to feel has suddenly disappeared and I feel a lot healthier and
> happier.
>
> I can relate with this. There is a point at which a person must release
> their control over their surroundings and the other people they encounter.
> My personal growth began with the recognition that the only thing I could
> really control was myself. It started with the attempt to finish one day
> without criticizing one thing. Not that I have to accept the unacceptable,
> or approve of the bad conduct of others, but that I needn't take it
> personally. You are right, the peace gives much room for progress.

Beautiful what you wrote! As much as the book recommends us to take responsibility, being able to let go of what is not of our concern is also essential. For many people, this is the main stressor. Thank you for bringing this up.

[Chikom]

Taking full responsibility puts you in a position to seek solutions. Taking responsibility is very vital because it enhances your mental health. So we should take time to relax and not to think so much to the level of putting our mental health at risk!

[Howlan]

Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> mpsmaster wrote:
> > Kei Nakagawa wrote:
> > > The author really stresses that taking responsibility for our actions is
> > > vital. Keeping that mindset just allows us to see through and plan ahead
> > > without hurting or damaging others in the process as we get to see the
> > > consequences of our actions. I think it is something that we really have to
> > > keep doing.
> >
> > Take responsibility brings vision! Wow, loved that. Sure one can make better
> > decisions and work for a better future when he sees himself as one in charge to
> do
> > so. Thanks for bring that up!
>
> Responsibility stands for you being in charge. Meaning you are getting more done. In
> return, you're moving your life away from stress and anxiety.

But if you stand responsible for everything it is bound to cause you stress. It may be positive most of the times but being responsible for everything in the long run misght damage your heatlh.

[Howlan]

Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> djr6090 wrote:
> > post by Mukukamm30 » Yesterday, 14:48
> >
> > I used to blame people for the many mistakes I had made in my life. I
> > tended to be upset with everyone and everything, but the moment I realized
> > that I was the one to make a change, I felt a certain amount of peace and
> > began to make a lot of progress in my life. All the tension and stress I
> > used to feel has suddenly disappeared and I feel a lot healthier and
> > happier.
> >
> > I can relate with this. There is a point at which a person must release
> > their control over their surroundings and the other people they encounter.
> > My personal growth began with the recognition that the only thing I could
> > really control was myself. It started with the attempt to finish one day
> > without criticizing one thing. Not that I have to accept the unacceptable,
> > or approve of the bad conduct of others, but that I needn't take it
> > personally. You are right, the peace gives much room for progress.
>
> Yes, responsibility comes with acceptance. Stress and anxiety also require that the
> person accepts that they have a problem that needs to be addressed. I like the way
> Gustavo shares the practical guidelines, with acceptance and responsibility, they are
> easy to implement.

Yes true. This book has some really great ideas to implement to solve stress and anxiety problems. Taking your behavior is account and finding out what is related to stress can be a very nice and appropriate way to get a feel of the causes of stress in you and help you find a remedy that suits you.

[Howlan]

Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> FS60 wrote:
> > mpsmaster wrote:
> > > Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> > > > Taking full responsibility for decisions and obligations is a goal
> everyone
> > > > should have. It narrows down to understanding your weaknesses,
> learning
> > > > from your mistakes, and moving on when required. I'm always taking
> full
> > > > responsibility for my actions. It's a sure way to stay out of trouble.
> > >
> > > Very interesting your words. One thing you said called my attention in
> > particular:
> > > the importance of understanding your weaknesses. I don’t recall any
> emphasis on
> > this
> > > in the book, but I do think that many people hide from themselves their
> > weaknesses,
> > > what creates a lot of internal pressure. I had an aunt, for example, that
> > pretend
> > > living a life without problems, one day she just exploded and had a 24
> hours
> > amnesia.
> > > What do you think about this?
> >
> > Yeah, there are many people who hide their weaknesses instead of facing them.
> > Basically, they want to portray themselves as brave people but facing weaknesses
> and
> > figuring out them requires real courage. I have seen people who have fears but
> they
> > never exclaimed. Just because others may not get them wrong or make fun of them.
> > People should change their attitude towards each other's weaknesses and should
> try to
> > deal them with empathy and mutual understanding. People have the fear that
> others may
> > not consider them abnormal. We should understand that it's entirely normal to
> have
> > some insecurities and weaknesses.
>
> I think one of the reasons the majority fear responsibility is because it comes with
> a price to pay. Mostly, that means sacrifice and facing the troubles that are in line
> with that specific task.

Yeah, I that responsibility is something that comes with a lot of baggage. You must take responsibility for your own actions and not those that are thrust on to you.

[Howlan]

Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> Mukukamm30 wrote:
> > I used to blame people for the many mistakes I had made in my life. I
> > tended to be upset with everyone and everything, but the moment I realized
> > that I was the one to make a change, I felt a certain amount of peace and
> > began to make a lot of progress in my life. All the tension and stress I
> > used to feel has suddenly disappeared and I feel a lot healthier and
> > happier.
>
> There's peace and joy that comes with acknowledging your inadequacies. It is that
> peace that also allows you to take full responsibility for the issues at hand.

Being able to understand where you are wrong is indeed a great way to understand yourself and gain a positive experience from it. It shapes you up and prepares you for the other challenges ahead.