Mother/Son relationship

Brenda Creech · Post by **Brenda Creech** » 16 Feb 2021, 04:47

Saint Bruno wrote: ↑14 Feb 2021, 16:13 I get your point. But I think most mothers love all their kids though some have favorites. I also think that the author is trying to reach out to his audience on a personal level and how he perceived his mother's love toward him.

That could very well be the case. I am sure he had a kind and loving mother, I just felt his description of their relationship was a little over the top. Mothers and sons are usually very close, so maybe his description was spot on.

Brenda Creech · Post by **Brenda Creech** » 16 Feb 2021, 04:52

Vine001 wrote: ↑14 Feb 2021, 18:10 I do think it's possible. Throughout my childhood I spent every night with my mother and when I finally moved to my bed she'd still come at night to check on me. Mothers are very amazing humans. I believe his mother showed his siblings how much she loved them in other ways.

I'm sure his mother loved all of her children. Mothers and sons have a special bond, but that doesn't dim the mother's love for her daughters. I just feel the author embellished on a lot of different things in his story.

Brenda Creech · Post by **Brenda Creech** » 16 Feb 2021, 04:56

Suzer6440 xyz wrote: ↑07 Feb 2021, 21:07 He saw only his relationship., not his siblings. Hard to explain . His mother seemed to be very caring but then again we only see it from his point of view.

You are right. I would have enjoyed hearing a little about his own relationship with his siblings, but his focus on the subject of the family was his mother.

Brenda Creech · Post by **Brenda Creech** » 16 Feb 2021, 05:01

Betty Gitonga wrote: ↑09 Feb 2021, 05:47 I don't think that it was too good a relationship to be real. His mother may have been more fond of him, seeing as he was the only surviving son. Of course, since the story is completely from his viewpoint, it seems like she loved him more. But, as shown by her dying request for him to look after his sisters, she loved the other girls. All in all, I believe their relationship is a lovely representation of a relationship between mother and son.

I see your point. Many mothers and sons have a special bond, as do fathers and daughters. I'm sure his mother was just as affectionate with all of her children.

Yvonne Monique · Post by **Yvonne Monique** » 16 Feb 2021, 06:12

These are the memories he has of his mother. It might sound too good to be true to us, but he experienced his mother's love that way. I think it's beautiful how lovingly he talks about this mum.

Kelyn · Post by **Kelyn** » 16 Feb 2021, 18:17

His siblings may well have similar memories of their mother or others best suited to them that are just as poignant. However, as so many others have pointed out, this book is written from the author's point of view, so it was natural for him to use a particularly fond moment between him and his mother to demonstrate her affection toward him. Although it may seem a bit overdone to an outsider, I do not doubt that he chose a perfect moment in time to show her feelings.

Michael Jerry_ · Post by **Michael Jerry_** » 17 Feb 2021, 00:18

I strongly believe that some things he tells the readers about his mother’s affection toward him were an embellishment of the facts. However, I don’t see it as a bad thing because I feel like it added to my experience while reading the book as it made the book more dramatic and I love that.

cd20 · Post by **cd20** » 17 Feb 2021, 11:05

I think because it is his memoir that he is recounting his relationship with his mother. I know as a mother that both my children would remember fond memories of me, but they may only tell it from their perspective, not their sibling's perspective unless they were in that particular memory that was shared.

WADonnelly · Post by **WADonnelly** » 17 Feb 2021, 15:33

Suzer6440 xyz wrote: ↑07 Feb 2021, 21:07 He saw only his relationship., not his siblings. Hard to explain . His mother seemed to be very caring but then again we only see it from his point of view.

I agree with you here. We only see the relationship between the two of them so we can't know whether this was different from her behaviour with her other children. I also think that we all tend to remember things differently from how they really happened. What is important here is the relationship rather than perhaps exacts moments between the two.

Tangerinehippie1 · Post by **Tangerinehippie1** » 18 Feb 2021, 04:11

Everybody has their own type of relationships with their parents. It is unique to the family and culture.

Njokime · Post by **Njokime** » 18 Feb 2021, 06:25

I also believe the author is telling part of his story, hence that is why he talks more about how his mother treats him.

tafta · Post by **tafta** » 18 Feb 2021, 09:10

We will unfortunately only have the author's view point showing us how
much his mother adored him. It is very realistic for a male child to feel such a fondness for his mother. This is his viewpoint. I would like to believe his mother had fondness for his siblings as well but the extent, we can never know.

Brenda Creech · Post by **Brenda Creech** » 19 Feb 2021, 13:57

Yvonne Monique wrote: ↑16 Feb 2021, 06:12 These are the memories he has of his mother. It might sound too good to be true to us, but he experienced his mother's love that way. I think it's beautiful how lovingly he talks about this mum.

Yes, I see your point. I had a wonderful and loving mother who raised five of the seven of us as a single mom and I still remember her loving ways. They weren't quite as focused as the author's mom's ways so as you pointed out his relationship with his mom might sound too good to be true to some readers.

Brenda Creech · Post by **Brenda Creech** » 19 Feb 2021, 14:09

Michaeljerry309 wrote: ↑17 Feb 2021, 00:18 I strongly believe that some things he tells the readers about his mother’s affection toward him were an embellishment of the facts. However, I don’t see it as a bad thing because I feel like it added to my experience while reading the book as it made the book more dramatic and I love that.

That's exactly what I meant. He embellished on the special things about his mom. I don't doubt she was a loving mother. I felt he embellished on a lot of things in his life. Not to say that all of it did not happen, I'm just saying he tried to make everything sound perfect.

Brenda Creech · Post by **Brenda Creech** » 19 Feb 2021, 14:21

tafta wrote: ↑18 Feb 2021, 09:10 We will unfortunately only have the author's view point showing us how
much his mother adored him. It is very realistic for a male child to feel such a fondness for his mother. This is his viewpoint. I would like to believe his mother had fondness for his siblings as well but the extent, we can never know.

I absolutely agree about it being realistic that a male child forms a special bond with their mother, just as a female child has a special place with her father. I know my son is more attentive and closer to me than my daughter is. She leans more toward her father. I believe his mother was a wonderful woman and showed a special love to all of her children. The author told his view because it is his memoir.