Are you a quiet person? Are most writers quiet?

kboyallday · Post by **kboyallday** » 22 May 2014, 21:50

I'm a very talkative and social person when it comes to people i know, also most writers i know are quiet.

Nathrad Sheare · Post by **Nathrad Sheare** » 27 May 2014, 04:44

I'm kinda quiet... Sorta... Depends... I like conversation. It's very helpful and inspiring when it comes to writing.

What? It's not like someone will sue you for putting something they said to you to paper... They might not even remember what they said... Okay, so maybe I'm not as sociopathic as I might seem at this present moment, but don't tell anybody.

I like talking to people for plenty of reasons and about plenty of things. I was raised to be a conversationalist, I guess. In my life, the ability to communicate with people has always been a necessity. I think that's a good thing, at least for me.

Kinza Sheikh · Post by **Kinza Sheikh** » 27 May 2014, 06:33

I am what we writers call 'complex character'. Quite with persons I dont know well. Talkative within the close circle. But somedays, i spend whole day with a talking fast. And somedays i keep on with my blabbering even with peoples i don't know. So the answer is, it varies.

ALRyder · Post by **ALRyder** » 27 May 2014, 23:53

Kinza Sheikh wrote:I am what we writers call 'complex character'. Quite with persons I dont know well. Talkative within the close circle. But somedays, i spend whole day with a talking fast. And somedays i keep on with my blabbering even with peoples i don't know. So the answer is, it varies.

I am very much the same. So I know what you mean. I do love my quiet, alone time though.

My day job actually requires me to not only work closely with people, but to actually be positive and encouraging. While I love my job, I often times have to put on my people face. Kind of funny, because I had an interview the other day where my soon to be boss had noticed that I had a serious personality and was looking for me to light up in front of a bunch of people. I apparently delivered on that, but I found it a little funny because this is something I've had to really work on. There are just some days I don't like people.

Anyway, as has been said, you can't really put all writers into one group.

biggsrv · Post by **biggsrv** » 28 May 2014, 14:28

Hmmm..... As a new writer and recently joined the onlinebookclub I found this thread and isn't it interesting how similar people can be. Yes it varies but certainly many people have the same traits of being deep thinkers or receding into their 'cave' when in the zone. I also am most comfortable with people I know. Having said that I'm generally comfortable with woman that I don't know than men. What does that say? Perhaps that's why the night I met my future wife, it was more like greeting an old friend than dating a stranger. Hmm....again. Might fit that into my next novel.

ALRyder · Post by **ALRyder** » 28 May 2014, 14:46

biggsrv wrote: I also am most comfortable with people I know. Having said that I'm generally comfortable with woman that I don't know than men. What does that say? Perhaps that's why the night I met my future wife, it was more like greeting an old friend than dating a stranger. Hmm....again. Might fit that into my next novel.

I found this to be interesting, because I felt very much the same way when I met my husband. Some people I just click with. Though I have found that I am less comfortable with middle aged men than most other new people I meet. Maybe "less comfortable" is the wrong word though. I guess I just find them more intimidating? This sometimes happens with women of the same age as well. I'm still in my 20's though, so it may just have to do with how I was raised and respecting my elders.

twain14 · Post by **twain14** » 28 May 2014, 16:39

I am the exact same way. I could write an entire book and always know what to say, but I can never keep a conversation going in the real world. I guess it's the opposite of writers block

evelynmanresa · Post by **evelynmanresa** » 29 May 2014, 19:52

I am truthfully not a quiet person. I am loud, and expressing my feeling comes very easily to me. This doesn't mean that I am always talking... although I do have a lot to say. Which in my opinion is good, my teachers always tell me that I have a voice, and that I am opinionated. I feel like this is an important quality to have, especially as a writer. People write because they have something to say, something they want the world to hear. So, no I am not a quiet person. When you ask whether or not most writers are quiet the answer is I don't know. I don't think you can just classify writers in such basic categories, which are extremely vague. I for one can tell you that I am not quiet.

laureng · Post by **laureng** » 01 Jun 2014, 19:21

Yes, I would consider myself to be quiet when I first meet people, but once I get to know you I tend to open up more.

Katherine E Wall · Post by **Katherine E Wall** » 02 Jun 2014, 04:18

I am an extroverted introvert. I tend to like my own time. I need my space and quiet to re-energize, but because I spent so many years in business, I tend to be a good conversationalist. However, that means I know how to ask questions or make comments so other people will talk. I would say, on average, my conversations are usually 75-90% listening.

JKPoindexter · Post by **JKPoindexter** » 09 Jun 2014, 07:54

I am around people I just met or don't know very well. Even around some family members I'm like that. Some people I could talk all day with and it doesn't bother me. Then there are some days I don't hardly say a word to anybody, even close friends and family unless I have too. It depends on what kind of mood I'm in at the moment.

iColor With Crayons · Post by **iColor With Crayons** » 09 Jun 2014, 17:27

Generally, I am a quiet person, but when I'm either with my friends, or feel a sudden obligation to speak to someone I encounter, I can be relatively outgoing. I don't know if I would accuse all writers of being quiet, but a few could be relatively quiet people due to their preference to observe and manipulate reality into a story.

Anna Meyer · Post by **Anna Meyer** » 18 Jun 2014, 14:53

I know someone close to me that is very quiet... and not a writer. He doesn't even read books. I am a thinker. Creative thinker. Writer in my own little way - you can be a writer even when you haven't published a book yet?!? Well, I think the question should be, "Are you a thinker? Are most writers thinkers, in their own little world all the time?" I can talk very much, among friends and people, when I have something to say in a conversation, but if the topic doesn't hit home, I will be quiet and mind my own things and thoughts. Some friends say I talk too much, others would say, I'm quite... I guess it depends on the conversation. I do however prefer to be left alone. I like to be on my own. When I do feel the need to social, we will just go for a drive or visit a market, surround ourselves with people, for a few hours. A thinker yes. Always weighing things from all directions. Covering a thing east, west, north, south. Thinking ... end up saying to much... analyzing too much. Overall, I think... I am more of a quiet person than a social extrovert... unless its with really close friends and we're discussing a interesting matter or problem or challenge or issue or fact! Then I can talk, not giving someone a chance to have their say as well.

emmadbaker1 · Post by **emmadbaker1** » 24 Jun 2014, 11:59

I don't speak for other writers but I am often the quiet girl at school. Most believe it's because I don't like you or I'm just plain boring but that's not true. I'm observant. I hear and see everything around me. Because everything I take in turns into a story. It starts out in my notebook, a random scene that means nothing. But if you aren't careful around me, then you may end up in a book. And if I give you my time and talk to you, that really means something. Because my imagination is a wonderful thing.

Ssirren39 · Post by **Ssirren39** » 30 Jun 2014, 01:53

I used to be a quiet person, but then one day I realized I liked being loud lol. So I am now outspoken, very talkative, etc. I find that it makes for some interesting stories from others though. Once I get them to open up, they have some pretty awesome life events to tell. Makes it pretty cool to take those bits and pieces and maybe change it up a bit for a story line...So I'm glad i'm not so quiet anymore.