Baby, what's your age?

Donnavila Marie01 · Post by **Donnavila Marie01** » 08 Jul 2017, 11:45

I am glad that most of us do not consider age as an issue in a relationship but I know a lot of relationships which were put in vain because of wide age gap of at least ten years.

gali · Post by **gali** » 08 Jul 2017, 11:50

Donnavila Marie01 wrote:I am glad that most of us do not consider age as an issue in a relationship but I know a lot of relationships which were put in vain because of wide age gap of at least ten years.

I think 10 years is fine. I knew some couples with 10 years gap (the man was the older one), and it worked just fine.

Donnavila Marie01 · Post by **Donnavila Marie01** » 08 Jul 2017, 12:13

khusnick wrote:My boyfriend is two and a half years older than me, and we started dating in high school. He was only one grade above me, though, so it didn't really feel like a big deal. I don't think I could date anyone younger than me, though.

Yeah, your age gap is close. It does not really matter.

Kalin Adi · Post by **Kalin Adi** » 08 Jul 2017, 16:40

Well, age does matter sometimes. However, it is true some people mature faster than others. In my personal case, I did not like dating men younger than me until I met my husband. He's a couple of years younger than me, but this hasn't affected our marriage.

Donnavila Marie01 · Post by **Donnavila Marie01** » 09 Jul 2017, 03:59

Kalin Adi wrote:Well, age does matter sometimes. However, it is true some people mature faster than others. In my personal case, I did not like dating men younger than me until I met my husband. He's a couple of years younger than me, but this hasn't affected our marriage.

Congratulations. My boyfriend is 12 years older than me. at this moment, we did not yet experience any issue on age-gap.

gali · Post by **gali** » 09 Jul 2017, 07:12

Kalin Adi wrote:Well, age does matter sometimes. However, it is true some people mature faster than others. In my personal case, I did not like dating men younger than me until I met my husband. He's a couple of years younger than me, but this hasn't affected our marriage.

Two years gap isn't that significant either way.

Post by **Kourtney Bradley** » 09 Jul 2017, 07:31

My husband is 2 years older than me, and I think that has worked out well for us considering we have been together since high school.

There was a strange situation when I was about 17, which at the time I don't think I even realized how strange it was. I went on a date and knew the guy was older than me, but I didnt know until the end of the date that he was TEN YEARS older than me. I immediately stopped talking to him. Then, the first day of school started back and he was a teacher at my school. Apparently that was something he was regularly doing, and I actually recently learned that he was only a teacher for a year and fired, and has since been arrested for several inappropriate things.

Kalin Adi · Post by **Kalin Adi** » 09 Jul 2017, 14:45

gali wrote:
Kalin Adi wrote:Two years gap isn't that significant either way.
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I agree with you on that aspect. However, what I was trying to say is that age must not be an issue when looking for a spouse. If I had been stubborn and committed to date just men who were older than me, then I wouldn't have been blessed with my husband.

PRAXIDES · Post by **PRAXIDES** » 09 Jul 2017, 14:53

Gravy wrote:I've never gotten the age hangup. I believe it comes down more to experience and common ground.

Take one 18 year old who's been through the wringer, and one 29 year old who hasn't. Who's to say which one is 'older'?
Basically, I don't believe chronological age makes much of a difference.

However, as has been stated, illigal is illigal. That wouldn't be okay.

I think the same way. There is also the issue of maturity. You find a 18 year old more reasonable and accommodating than a 25year old.

Kalin Adi · Post by **Kalin Adi** » 09 Jul 2017, 14:57

Donnavila Marie01 wrote:
Kalin Adi wrote:Congratulations. My boyfriend is 12 years older than me. at this moment, we did not yet experience any issue on age-gap.

Thank you!
I don't think you'll have major issues in your relationship as long as there's communication and commitment. I wish you the best.

Ssinghal · Post by **Ssinghal** » 09 Jul 2017, 20:47

I agree with most people here. The connection is more important than the age difference. If there is no connection, the story might end like that of Yasser and Miriam's story rather than that of Elias and Mallika's story.

Strawberry Abion · Post by **Strawberry Abion** » 09 Jul 2017, 20:57

Age gap doesnt matter as long as the love is pure and with good intention with each other.."Love has no rules, Love has no exceptions, As long as it goes on the right track don't be afraid to love and be loved.."

DeeA · Post by **DeeA** » 09 Jul 2017, 22:13

An older man usually gives this false sense of maturity, stability and security many young girls like Malika in the book craves for but as you grow older you realize security cannot be attached to another human. You have to fight for your place in this dreadf world.

gali · Post by **gali** » 09 Jul 2017, 23:42

Kalin Adi wrote:
gali wrote:
Kalin Adi wrote:Two years gap isn't that significant either way.
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I agree with you on that aspect. However, what I was trying to say is that age must not be an issue when looking for a spouse. If I had been stubborn and committed to date just men who were older than me, then I wouldn't have been blessed with my husband.

I understood your meaning and I am glad it worked out for you.

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klbradley wrote:My husband is 2 years older than me, and I think that has worked out well for us considering we have been together since high school.

There was a strange situation when I was about 17, which at the time I don't think I even realized how strange it was. I went on a date and knew the guy was older than me, but I didnt know until the end of the date that he was TEN YEARS older than me. I immediately stopped talking to him. Then, the first day of school started back and he was a teacher at my school. Apparently that was something he was regularly doing, and I actually recently learned that he was only a teacher for a year and fired, and has since been arrested for several inappropriate things.

A good thing he was caught and arrested!

StanLaurel · Post by **StanLaurel** » 10 Jul 2017, 00:18

gali wrote:I was shocked when I read she was only 13, especially as he was much older than her. I agree that the gap won't matter at older ages. I don't think their relationship would have worked even if Elias knew that she was underage from the start, as she was much too young for him. She was a kid really and thought like one.

I have never got involved with people significantly younger than me when dating. My Husband is 4 years older than me.

I don't know what book this is referring to, but apparently there was a big age difference.

I feel like this is targeted more towards men though. If men would get involved with someone younger (barely legal perhaps). Obviously you couldn't have dated younger. But since you're a woman, you should have answered if you have or if you would have dated significantly older.