Fidelity vs. infidelity

gali · Post by **gali** » 08 Jul 2017, 11:47

Ssinghal raised an interesting point. According to him, "what Yasser did doesn't count as an affair, as he did not have any physical relationship with his lover". I think it is still cheating, even if he didn't realize the affair. And he did try, but he retreated at the last minute. What do you think?

Amagine · Post by **Amagine** » 08 Jul 2017, 13:10

It was definitely cheating. He was talking inappropriately with another woman who wasn't his wife. I don't even want to imagine the kind of conversations he must've had with her.

gali · Post by **gali** » 08 Jul 2017, 13:54

Amagine wrote:It was definitely cheating. He was talking inappropriately with another woman who wasn't his wife. I don't even want to imagine the kind of conversations he must've had with her.

I most definitely agree with you!

Ayosinmi · Post by **Ayosinmi** » 08 Jul 2017, 14:45

I agree with you. Yasser most definitely cheated with that girl and I don't think he claimed otherwise.
It starts from the thought and then it translates into action

Kelebogile Mbangi · Post by **Kelebogile Mbangi** » 08 Jul 2017, 14:49

For me even an emotional attachment qualifies as an affair. Why flirt with other people whilst in a relationship anyway?

gali · Post by **gali** » 08 Jul 2017, 23:46

I agree with you all. It is cheating, even if he didn't have any physical relationship with her.

Donnavila Marie01 · Post by **Donnavila Marie01** » 09 Jul 2017, 03:41

It is definitely cheating but if this person is real, I do not want to judge him immediately. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. In court, I believe the issue on infidelity will not pass because there is no physical contact.

gali · Post by **gali** » 10 Jul 2017, 00:15

Donnavila Marie01 wrote:It is definitely cheating but if this person is real, I do not want to judge him immediately. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. In court, I believe the issue on infidelity will not pass because there is no physical contact.

It is cheating, loud and clear. It may not be considered as such in court, but it isn't the only consideration.

Donnavila Marie01 · Post by **Donnavila Marie01** » 10 Jul 2017, 10:07

gali wrote:
Donnavila Marie01 wrote:It is definitely cheating but if this person is real, I do not want to judge him immediately. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt. In court, I believe the issue on infidelity will not pass because there is no physical contact.
It is cheating, loud and clear. It may not be considered as such in court, but it isn't the only consideration.

I agreed that it was cheating. I did n9t say it was not cheating, but I was saying, I do not want to judge him. We need to see both sides of the coin. Why did he do that? There was a reason. Did he try to resist the temptation? He did.

Post by **kandscreeley** » 10 Jul 2017, 10:36

I agree with you Gali. I think an affair can just as easily come from the heart as from the physical act.

gali · Post by **gali** » 10 Jul 2017, 11:20

kandscreeley wrote:I agree with you Gali. I think an affair can just as easily come from the heart as from the physical act.

Thank you. And it hurts just the same!

yellosteel · Post by **yellosteel** » 10 Jul 2017, 16:11

Having an emotional attachment with someone other than one's partner does not qualify as infidelity in so far there was no physical involvement.

gali · Post by **gali** » 10 Jul 2017, 23:57

yellosteel wrote:Having an emotional attachment with someone other than one's partner does not qualify as infidelity in so far there was no physical involvement.

Emotional involvement is just as bad, if not worse. Both are infidelity in my book.

yellosteel · Post by **yellosteel** » 11 Jul 2017, 05:14

Emotional involvement is just as bad, if not worse. Both are infidelity in my book

Well,am not saying its not but the point is...getting involved emotionally with another person is a sure indication of a crack in that relationship, and it may well be a form of distraction when not taken further.

gali · Post by **gali** » 11 Jul 2017, 05:16

yellosteel wrote:Emotional involvement is just as bad, if not worse. Both are infidelity in my book

Well,am not saying its not but the point is...getting involved emotionally with another person is a sure indication of a crack in that relationship, and it may well be a form of distraction when not taken further.

If one wants to save his marriage (as was the case in the book), keeping a virtual lover isn't a good step in that direction...