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desareedany · Post by **desareedany** » 13 Jul 2017, 12:41

Thank you hsimone. I don't usually reveal things like that on the internet. Kind of an irrational fear that my mother will somehow find it even though she knows nothing about this website or my involvement in it.

Heidi M Simone · Post by **Heidi M Simone** » 13 Jul 2017, 14:09

No worries, desareedany. I understand about not sharing certain things online. Thank you, again, for feeling comfortable in doing so here.

Gichorabram · Post by **Gichorabram** » 13 Jul 2017, 22:10

Staying in an abusive relationship is tough. Sometimes the kids notice both parents avoiding to talk or even look at each other. A really bad example.
Deciding to leave like Nadia would prefer may be right. But you need to exhaust every available option for the relationship to work before opting out. I'd rather try to talk to my closest friends and relatives or even seek counseling, because divorce could sometimes lead to more disappointment or further inconvenience to a couple.

gali · Post by **gali** » 13 Jul 2017, 22:47

desareedany wrote:Staying married even though you don't love each other for the kids sake I'd have to say is not the worst thing in the world. My parents split because they didn't love each other but there was no abuse. Then my mom married my stepdad who pretty much mentally and physically abused me my whole life. They married when I was 5. I'm 32 and they are still married. So honestly, I would have taken parents in a loveless marriage any day over what I ended up with.

I am sorry to hear it. Thank you for sharing.

shish_by_design · Post by **shish_by_design** » 14 Jul 2017, 06:22

I'm on both sides. Their situations are very different. I support Nadia because children should not be used as an excuse to continue suffering an abusive relationship and at the same time I think that Yaser should stay on for his kids. Its different because Nadia's kids can be more understanding of her situation than Yaser's kids.

Rawen · Post by **Rawen** » 14 Jul 2017, 09:38

Im on Nadia's side. In my opinion its more painful for a child to be with unhappy parents than a broken family.

Dean Marie · Post by **Dean Marie** » 14 Jul 2017, 12:15

I agree with you. I don't believe kids should be a reason to stay with someone. I personally went through a situation where my relationship was a mess and I felt like forcing myself to stay for the kids would do more harm than good. I do, in a sense understand why some people stick it out. I connect more with Nadia.

gali · Post by **gali** » 14 Jul 2017, 12:26

Dean Marie wrote:I agree with you. I don't believe kids should be a reason to stay with someone. I personally went through a situation where my relationship was a mess and I felt like forcing myself to stay for the kids would do more harm than good. I do, in a sense understand why some people stick it out. I connect more with Nadia.

I am sorry you went through it and hope you are much happier now. Thank you for sharing.

Shuzzy · Post by **Shuzzy** » 14 Jul 2017, 13:29

Yes sometimes in a relationship we Make serious sacrifice to get what we always long for.Nadia was on it.

Ljessup · Post by **Ljessup** » 14 Jul 2017, 18:59

I agree with Nadia. I think that staying a relationship that is clearly over, that is abusive, or that always shows negativity is not good for the children in the long run. I think that it teaches the wrong things even though the intentions of staying is to spare them from seeing broken homes. It can teach them that staying somewhere that negativity is a constant is what they should do or aspire to do and personally I would absolutely want more for my child and want them to find their happiness as well as be honest throughout their lives, even if that means the truth might hurt. Through all that though, I want them to have compassion no matter what situation they are in. Leaving a situation and bettering yourself and your own life does not always have to be ugly.

Ubyamos · Post by **Ubyamos** » 14 Jul 2017, 19:31

I am on Yaser's side. Every woman should try to make a marriage work, whether abusive or unfulfilling, especially if kids are involved. I've seen kids and even grown-ups that have lost their way in life majorly because they came from a broken home.

Malfoyy Slitherin · Post by **Malfoyy Slitherin** » 14 Jul 2017, 20:35

I am actually single and am beginning to think my soul mate is not in the same continent as me lol. I just don't vibe as well as am suppose to.. Relationships are awesome and are a great way to experience love and care from a totally different person. If with the right one, relationships can blossom into something wonderful.

gali · Post by **gali** » 15 Jul 2017, 00:25

Ubyamos wrote:I am on Yaser's side. Every woman should try to make a marriage work, whether abusive or unfulfilling, especially if kids are involved. I've seen kids and even grown-ups that have lost their way in life majorly because they came from a broken home.

Every woman should try to make a marriage work, even abusive one?? I strongly disagree as it can lead to her death. I heard of many cases where women stayed in such marriages and lost their lives as a result.

-- July 15th, 2017, 8:26 am --

Thank you all for your comments. They were very enlightening.