Baby, what's your age?

Ljessup · Post by **Ljessup** » 18 Jul 2017, 21:55

I think if he had known her age early on he would have walked away from that situation far sooner than he did. I think that age matters, but the situation decides how much it matters. Law is law and that should definitely be followed, but I think that once one enters adulthood and can make their own choices I believe it is based off the people involved.

raikyuu · Post by **raikyuu** » 18 Jul 2017, 23:18

CatInTheHat wrote:
gali wrote:
No matter his reasons, he acted nobly. I don't know if a genuine relationship could have been possible for them, as she changed too much for that. He had in mind a certain glorified image of her and once she grew out of it, he realized it wasn't meant to be.
I concur with you on this one. He definitely showed maturity in his actions, both when he first learned how old Malika was and then later on, when reunited at the concert.

It depends on what you mean by maturity though. If you simply mean the fact that Elias made the decision that wouldn't put him in jail, why yes, it is "mature," although a more accurate phrase for that is "playing safe."

Brenda Kiptim · Post by **Brenda Kiptim** » 19 Jul 2017, 05:18

Independently age does not matter when someone is in their twenties. However when you factor in friends and interests age plays a huge role. while one age group is ready to settle another is discovering themselves. For below eighteen no no.

MsDree · Post by **MsDree** » 19 Jul 2017, 08:52

At teenage age, it would be considered that such a huge gap would matter. People would see it as illegal thing, even pointing it out as "pedophile", even if the man loves her. Unless they entered their 20s, it'll be fine for them to have relationship even with the age gap. We're part of societies so there'll be conflicting views though majority would agree that such relationships will cause problems that everyone would object to it. By viewing it from the girl's p.o.v, it would be fine for her to like someone older than her. But looking from the man's p.o.v, it would be a problem.

LadyClaire · Post by **LadyClaire** » 19 Jul 2017, 16:12

I would love to point out first that 'basic human emotions are not my strong suits'. Anyways, I don't think there's got to be any tension between Elias and his girl plus they are almost kids. When it comes to dating, I prefer little age difference

MichelleRelling · Post by **MichelleRelling** » 19 Jul 2017, 20:14

Age is important when you are young. during high school and just after (college for some) you are in completely different social circles and your schedules are completely different. It could be said that, you could be in completely different social circles and have different schedules at any age, but graduating high school social circles aren't everything-and it's the first time you get to schedule how you spend your time. With that being said, I think two or three years is a big deal when you are young.
As you get older, it's easier to expand the age gap. It becomes less about age and more about stages of life. If your stage of life is similar, it's easier to date.
I married a man three and a half years younger than me. I was 24 and he was 20 at our wedding...he couldn't legally drink, my friends will never let me live that one down. Nine years later and we are happy! When I think about him being in 8th grade when I was a senior in high school, it trips me out, but he's great and I love my young man!

dhomespot · Post by **dhomespot** » 19 Jul 2017, 21:03

I think at that young of an age, age should be taken into consideration (and the law), but as consenting adults, I do not feel as age would make that much of a difference in relationships.

Neelam Mishra · Post by **Neelam Mishra** » 19 Jul 2017, 21:38

A prior knowledge about the age difference might have affected the feelings because it's a human tendency to invite less troubles in life. But of course as the situation is mentioned here, it is really difficult to fight or suppress one's emotions. All I can say is if the girl loves him too, they should wait till she attain the right age to be together.

lolashoes · Post by **lolashoes** » 20 Jul 2017, 06:11

I wouldn't date someone much younger or older than me. My limit is 4 year age difference in which my partner is the older one. In this story, the girl is still practically a child so regardless of how much he loves her, their pairing would still look wrong on so many levels.

IsabelMay · Post by **IsabelMay** » 20 Jul 2017, 07:27

Age definitely matters, it's shocking that she was only 13. It's alright to see a couple who is maybe 25 and 30 but they are adults at least. I wouldn't really pay attention to it if the person is truly good, but underage romance is not something that should be taken lightly as they are still kids who have yet to experience real life.

Jaime Lync · Post by **Jaime Lync** » 20 Jul 2017, 07:52

Donnavila Marie01 wrote:
Amagine wrote:I would never date someone who is significantly younger than me. Three years is my limit. If they are more than three years younger than me then it won't work.
I have the same feeling Dating someone younger than me makes me feel uncomfortable. I don't want to be labeled as cradle snatcher.

I dated someone 3 years younger than me and it was a really great relationship while it lasted. She was really mature for her age so it did not feel like there was an age gap.

I said earlier that I don't see my self dating anyone 3 years older or younger than me but I have had tons of crushes on people way older than me. I've never acted on most of my crushes especially those directed toward women older than me.

Juliet Esther · Post by **Juliet Esther** » 20 Jul 2017, 08:44

I prefer dating an older guy or a guy who's two years younger,that's the age limit. As for Elias, his situation was a little bit complicated, i think Malika looked older and he fell in love with her thinking she was older, when he learned of her real age he was already in love. I think he behaved maturely because he did not touch her

Ikechukwu Echebiri · Post by **Ikechukwu Echebiri** » 20 Jul 2017, 14:58

To a greater or lesser extent, age is a huge factor in relationship because it takes emotional maturity (which grows and develops with age) to journey through the intricate and complex web we call relationship. While physiological maturity may come early, emotional maturity takes a while, we acquire it as we grow older.