Make a choice: Your career or Love?

[Maria joraimah]

In my current situation, I will choose LOVE. I realized that as we get older, a lasting relationship is what really matters. Maybe I am just a romantic at heart but wouldn't it be wonderful to grow old with the one you love?

[Athena Moon]

If love is so strong you can establish your career where your loved one is. I have exactly the same dilemma right now.... I am sure the words I said above are true, but by far most difficult to do. Whenever you have career opportunity you migrate to where it is easier to achieve, but if you stay beside your loved one, well you have to create that atmosphere yourself and dig out opportunities right beneath your feet. I truly hope I'll be able to do that, otherwise I'll have to leave. But leaving him is like losing part of me. I swear I had never felt such a spiritual bound to anyone, but I also want to be independent and successful woman. It is extremely difficult decision to make yet so simple. Also, I agree that love can wait only it is the time you are losing. We are made of memories and I want to create as many beautiful memories with him as possible. So far I choose love and all incredible emotions which come along, while trying to grow beside him, cause he wants to help me to find myself and make my career as well.

[Marylynn]

I would choose career first, i believe that love can wait.

[EVroom]

To those of you who are married...

If you weren't already married or in a relationship would you still choose love?

I would still choose love. I'm a bit odd in that if I am in a relationship with someone, it is because I am looking for a long-term commitment. Sort of like the point of dating is to find someone worth marrying.

Careers. . . the amount of people who stay in the same job, or even the same field of work, for their whole lives is so small, that I would not want to organize my life around my career. Now, I still need to be able to support myself and my family, but a traditional career is just a tool, not a goal. Now, my dream career is a holistic farmer, so that's a bit different that an ordinary career goal anyways.

[Tweenie]

Both if it happens to me both why not...good to be happy as well

[sandra72jean]

I would definitely say love. True love can be a once in a lifetime thing. As I see it, a career is tangible. I know there are no definites with either, but I can live with the "what ifs" on a career than I could with passing up the love of my life.

[hlc85]

The answer to this question changes depending on age. Of course, long-standing and stable love is more valuable than a career. In an ideal exchange, I would accept unconditional love in place of my career; however, if the love would still have the potential of failing, then I would rather become fulfilled by the hard work instilled in a career.

[Slovien]

This is interesting since in the last few years my mind has changed. About three years ago I was in a relationship. At that time the applications to teach in Japan were almost due. The person I was with at the time had MS and there was honestly no way she would be able to go to Japan with me. At that time I choose her. I thought I was in love, I thought it would last, I didn't see the red flags.

Now I would say my career. If its true love then it'll last through anything, even a major career change. But most of the time it isn't something you can put on hold. I got lucky and last year I did apply for the job long after we had broken up and I got it. I do wonder at times how things would be different if I had applied when I originally wanted to instead of waiting until I was older. It is really hard to say what would have happened but overall I think I'm in a good spot now.

So to me if the choice came up again, I'd choose my career. While at times I hate it and it annoys me, if the person truly loves you, they'll want what's best for you anyway.

[Maria Huaniangre]

I would choose career, be happy with my career, settled and find love.
Love without a career does not make sense, someone needs career to earn good amount to make love and life fun.

[Excitedreads]

Can't i choose both? I'm an event manager, and my husband is my co manager. We do every major event together. And on the flip side my husband is an electrical contractor, and im his right hand woman. Neither of us would have made is as far as we have without each other, if anything i think being with him helped me understand myself better and figure out where i wanted to be.... so im torn.

[Paroca]

I'm at this point in life that I don't have both, and I yearn for career more than love. I guess there will always be this dilemma, to some extent, and it would greatly depend on one's current situation or mindset. But I have this (maybe too idealistic and naive) belief that love would be willing to wait and should be supportive of the self actualization of each other. Including career growth.

[fayetino]

I'm still young and I feel that establishing my career is the most important thing for me. I'm not that optimistic wgen it comes to love but I don't know...maybe someday my views will change

[k2rugman]

I chose love and I feel like that was a good choice for me. I have been able to further my career with my husband by my side cheering me on.

[Rebecca_Rivera]

I do think each should be focused on in its turn. For me, I chose love, only to be disappointed for ten years. Then I moved on to life in general, which brought me love first then a career. I'm of the belief that if you ask for God's help, he will help love and career to be in sync with each other. We need both in our lives, and one is just as important as the other. Our choices are difficult at times, but he can help them come together in the end.

[Tianakellefox]

-- 08 Aug 2017, 00:41 --

Even though I'm young and lovely I feel like just like I'm mostly focused on my career I just wanna wait until I'm older to love someone well I love my family but I just pick career