What is the best way to overcome abuse and trauma?

Raya raymond · Post by **Raya raymond** » 24 Apr 2018, 08:33

0741-785-960 wrote: ↑24 Apr 2018, 06:23 The best way to overcome abuse is to avoid isolation. Don't suffer alone. Share your situation with people you trust and they can help you at some point. However don't share you situation with just anyone because some people might be waiting for a topic about you to discuss it publicly. But as they say a problem shared is half solved. So avoiding isolation is the best way to overcome abuse.

That helps me a lot thankyou for the advice. Making friends is a great way to deal with suffering

kwahu · Post by **kwahu** » 24 Apr 2018, 08:42

The situation for Natalie is a complex one and really moved by the way she goes through it all successfully. I don't think there is any easier way to deal with an abuse, though it depends with the person in question. We all cope with abusive relationships differently. Moreover, describing such stories ain't that easy.

PaigeA · Post by **PaigeA** » 24 Apr 2018, 09:31

cristinaro wrote: ↑24 Apr 2018, 05:18
RebeccasReading wrote: ↑16 Apr 2018, 17:46 Everyone copes in their own to trauma. Some people need to stay busy, others need alone time. Therapy is a great resource for anyone who has the ability to utilize it.
It is a shame that therapy is not more easily accessible!

Prec8ious · Post by **Prec8ious** » 24 Apr 2018, 10:34

I think u would need some type of therapy to overcome abuse and trauma.. she did a very good job with overcoming hers

gen_g · Post by **gen_g** » 24 Apr 2018, 11:03

Personally, I do not think that there is a 'best' way to go about resolving abuse and trauma, as what works for the goose might not work for the gander. Instead of having a 'best' way, it is more important to realise the source of trauma and/or abuse, and to recognise plausible ways to work on overcoming it – it is the process of introspection that is vital.

freakkshowx · Post by **freakkshowx** » 24 Apr 2018, 12:04

I was assaulted in middle school, and I have honestly found that controlled exposure therapy has helped me cope with my PTSD, especially books that deal moderately in my trigger areas. I find that I can heal along with the characters or author without having to feel like I'm oversharing in talking to friends or family, and I have real attempts to move forward that I can share with my therapist. Overall, reading certain books is a safe way to poke around in my own mind and determine where I stand threshold-wise. For anyone in my position, I would highly recommend Rupi Kaur's The Sun and Her Flowers for healing and Alice by Christina Henry for intense exposure. I would not recommend the newly diagnosed delve into Alice , however, because it is quite disturbing and should be saved for a challenge piece.

Natalie Charlene · Post by **Natalie Charlene** » 24 Apr 2018, 12:44

I think the answer is different depending on the person. People cope with trauma and abuse in vastly different ways.

Natalie submerged herself into art, and, in my experience, art seems to be one of the best outlets to help ease the negative emotions, turning something ugly into something creative and beautiful.

Other people suffering from abuse and trauma may turn to more physical outlets, such as working out and running, burning off energy to help deal with the feelings. Or they may learn about yoga and/or meditation to help clear their minds.

I think the best way to deal with trauma and abuse is to do what makes you feel better and is good for you at the same time.

AmySmiles · Post by **AmySmiles** » 24 Apr 2018, 13:14

I imagine overcoming abuse could be different for everyone. Definitely having the support of a close friend, family member or therapist would be a good help. People tend to fall into depression if they feel like they don't have any connections, which is what the abuser is relying on.

Mkpo ikana · Post by **Mkpo ikana** » 24 Apr 2018, 14:50

the best way to overcome abuse is learning from someone's past mistakes and staying a way from cases that does not concerns you, knowing the kind of people you associate with, know your standard in everyone's life and reason matured in all you do.

Bright-Kersh · Post by **Bright-Kersh** » 24 Apr 2018, 18:15

The best way to avoid all that stuff is given yourself a space and to learn to be alone and like it and moreover getting a good book to read!....

prettysmart · Post by **prettysmart** » 24 Apr 2018, 22:21

I have been verbally abused all my life and listening music, jogging and watching my favorite series movie is how I deal with trauma and Natalie is definitely using art as her coping mechanism or escape world. I believe the mother is also responsible in the equation as she should strive to raise her children in a different environment especially since women are now liberated and able to take some amount of control in the society in all aspects.

raya753 · Post by **raya753** » 25 Apr 2018, 01:14

I think that this is actually a very complex question. Trauma and abuse are never the same for any one person. I think it is really important to look holistically at a situation before saying how to overcome it. I think Natalie was a great example, but her coping mechanisms aren't necessarily going to be everyone's coping mechanisms. I think, however, the first question I always ask when I hear about trauma and abuse is about the person's support system. Having a friend or family member or a professional makes the world of difference.

+PrinceTcrown2616 · Post by **+PrinceTcrown2616** » 25 Apr 2018, 02:20

The writer and every other person's as said well. Abuse is one of the things that leads to addictions.
I was emotionally abuse which has lead to sexual addiction for me and words can't express the Trauma this has caused.
One of the ways to deal with this issue is to see a chancellor in to re-orientate you.

natomm · Post by **natomm** » 25 Apr 2018, 05:20

Abuse can really affect you normal life but once you accept your situation. You'll find yourself being strong than before and you can also find some humble time of your own by reading,dancing, yoga and nature walk to calm your spirit

DNameiscal+Fort · Post by **DNameiscal+Fort** » 25 Apr 2018, 08:26

Due to my own understanding, i think Natalie did a great act of self confidence by standing up to the challenge of her step father , not just her father (step), but also a drunk addict who cares less about her well being...by such act he might think over his attitude towards her ..