Take responsability and relax.

Howlan · Post by **Howlan** » 11 Aug 2020, 12:24

espo wrote:
> I think the key is in balance. I agree with the author that taking
> responsibility and accountability for your own life and emotions is key to
> a life well lived. However I have examples from my own life and people I
> know that trying to have everything under control can easily deal to
> burnout. Like I said, balance between knowing when to step up and when to
> let go.

You should also not try to overthink things as that can cause a lot of problems. The way to keep yourself in check is sorting out the necessary things which you want. Try to understand your self better.

Howlan · Post by **Howlan** » 11 Aug 2020, 12:31

Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> Gustavo recommends taking full responsibility for your personal life. I
> believe taking such responsibility comes with a price. Every action has a
> reaction, meeting your lows and highs involves patience, discipline,
> understanding, and commitment. Although the process is demanding, it's a
> sure way to prevent stress and anxiety.

Yes, true. Taking responsibility is easier said than done. It involves a commitment to what you do and can be stressful if you think too much about it. While you must always try to be accountable for what you do, you should try to get a hold of your behaviour and manage your stress accordingly.

Howlan · Post by **Howlan** » 11 Aug 2020, 12:37

Wesley Friday wrote:
> Taking responsibility for one's life is indeed essential. It helps to know
> oneself just like the Oracle of Delphi says. It helps to avoid playing the
> blame game which ultimately makes one reluctant to improve his or her
> present circumstances. For example, if you blame a fast food joint for
> being available thus being the cause of your health problems, you'll always
> fail to achieve your desired healthy status by being passive in your life.
> Taking responsibility on the hand is necessary and beneficial.

Yes, but it should be kept in check. If you try to take unnecessary responsibility to everything in your life it can be stressful. Sometimes letting things go is the is a correct answer.

Howlan · Post by **Howlan** » 11 Aug 2020, 12:42

Kola+wole wrote:
> It is imperative every individual takes responsibility for his/her actions
> and stop living a life full of reaction alone. Life is all about balance,
> therefore it is every individual's job to maintain that balance.

Yes, one must keep their balance in life and keep themselves accountable for their actions. Keep yourself open and honest and just try to live in the present moment. By doing so, self-accountability and self-responsibility can be authentic.

Howlan · Post by **Howlan** » 11 Aug 2020, 12:44

Miller56 wrote:
> I think we all need to own our strengths and our weaknesses. Everyone has
> both and if you know what they are, you can use your strengths to help you
> get through situations. If you understand your weaknesses, you have
> something to work on for improvement. I think sometimes people know they
> are responsible for their own life, but when things go wrong it is easier
> to blame the circumstances or someone else than to take responsibility.

Yes, that is a trait which rather common today. What is missing for them is a rock-solid commit in what they do and stand up to the decision they make. It makes them pretty authentic about what they do and taking for life becme easier.

gatuguta2030 · Post by **gatuguta2030** » 11 Aug 2020, 12:53

I agree with the author that people should take responsibility for their actions. That way, anxiety will greatly reduce.

mpsmaster · Post by **mpsmaster** » 11 Aug 2020, 13:00

Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> Leen282 wrote:
> > I believe in taking responsibility. That doesn't mean you can predict and
> > steer outcome, but you can (almost) always choose to step away from a bad
> > situation. I believe that yoga, meditation, exercise can help people find
> > the strength to take responsibility for their choice.
>
> From personal experience, all sports or activities that require your will power are
> always instilling a habit of responsibility in you. Yes, yoga and meditation can be
> used as examples.

Loved your approach on sports, really true! A true chance to show how responsible one is. I once heard a mom complain that her son became addicted with bodybuilding, he was winning many prizes, but she was disappointed because, in her view, there is no growth in that. I guy heard and, beautifully, explained the effort, discipline and responsibility necessary to win a prize as a bodybuilder.

Mukukamm30 · Post by **Mukukamm30** » 11 Aug 2020, 13:48

I used to blame people for the many mistakes I had made in my life. I tended to be upset with everyone and everything, but the moment I realized that I was the one to make a change, I felt a certain amount of peace and began to make a lot of progress in my life. All the tension and stress I used to feel has suddenly disappeared and I feel a lot healthier and happier.

Katherine Smith · Post by **Katherine Smith** » 11 Aug 2020, 15:30

I think that when you blame others for your own problems it makes those issues bigger. I also think that understanding what the problem is and coming up with solutions greatly decreases anxiety because you have the light at the end of the tunnel, so to speak. An example of this is money troubles because if you blame others for your overspending then you end up in a bigger predicament where you could default on loans.

Acwoolet · Post by **Acwoolet** » 11 Aug 2020, 19:17

I think that it is very important to know our own weaknesses and to be able to acknowledge them. It’s very important that to rest and recuperate from the stresses of life. I think this book could help a lot of people.

houligan19 · Post by **houligan19** » 11 Aug 2020, 20:24

Taking full responsibility for your problems allows you to be responsible for fixing them. It is a very freeing idea if you think about it.

Sou Hi · Post by **Sou Hi** » 11 Aug 2020, 21:34

I think the author is correct. It's our life, we can't ask someone to clean up after a mess we made. Aside from a jerk, anyone would prefer to have a proud life, rather than dwelling on things they avoided, yes?

For example, we see an accident. Now it's our choice: to help or to ignore that. Whatever option we picked, it's us who will face the consequence. It's fine if we just turn away, but then will our conscience let us rest? There're those who chose to overlook thinking it's not their problem, then haunted by their choice, especially when the consequence is not something anybody would wish for. They knew that they should do something, but then they didn't. Thus, anxiety and stress formed from half-hearted responsibility.

So, why shouldn't we do ourselves a favor and be fully responsible, so that we can have a good sleep that night?

Rosemary Okoko · Post by **Rosemary Okoko** » 12 Aug 2020, 00:16

Our choice of actions determines if we will get stressed. It's upon us to take responsibility of our actions as it is important to not overload our brains. We must allocate time for relaxation.

FS60 · Post by **FS60** » 12 Aug 2020, 03:54

Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> Taking full responsibility for decisions and obligations is a goal everyone
> should have. It narrows down to understanding your weaknesses, learning
> from your mistakes, and moving on when required. I'm always taking full
> responsibility for my actions. It's a sure way to stay out of trouble.

Yeah, taking responsibility helps a mature and positive man to move on and correct the things which are gone wrong. But this is not always the case. People who has not strong decisive power can get into self-blaming and self-accusations which is sometimes more vulnerable for those who have the possibility to commit suicide for blaming themselves. Sometimes, blaming the circumstances also help to avoid the guilt and pressure.

FS60 · Post by **FS60** » 12 Aug 2020, 03:59

mpsmaster wrote:
> Joseph_ngaruiya wrote:
> > Taking full responsibility for decisions and obligations is a goal everyone
> > should have. It narrows down to understanding your weaknesses, learning
> > from your mistakes, and moving on when required. I'm always taking full
> > responsibility for my actions. It's a sure way to stay out of trouble.
>
> Very interesting your words. One thing you said called my attention in particular:
> the importance of understanding your weaknesses. I don’t recall any emphasis on this
> in the book, but I do think that many people hide from themselves their weaknesses,
> what creates a lot of internal pressure. I had an aunt, for example, that pretend
> living a life without problems, one day she just exploded and had a 24 hours amnesia.
> What do you think about this?

Yeah, there are many people who hide their weaknesses instead of facing them. Basically, they want to portray themselves as brave people but facing weaknesses and figuring out them requires real courage. I have seen people who have fears but they never exclaimed. Just because others may not get them wrong or make fun of them. People should change their attitude towards each other's weaknesses and should try to deal them with empathy and mutual understanding. People have the fear that others may not consider them abnormal. We should understand that it's entirely normal to have some insecurities and weaknesses.