Zia Lennox, is she a sexaholic?

[Sushan Ekanayake]

I see that many comments are simply on whether Zia is a sexaholic or not. But, though that was the title, the topic was created to discuss her character qualities. So you can comment how you actually feel about her anxiety, how others see her, how she herself see her, why she acted in certain ways in certain situations, etc. Thank you

[Sushan Ekanayake]

I think sexaholic is a strong term that does not accurately describe her. I do not know if it's just me but I see the excerpts you gave as very normal ways women express themselves sexually. Maybe some don't say it out loud but If we could read their minds we could definitely see it.

One's mind and body getting sexually aroused and reacted accordingly is not a sin whether it is a man or a woman. But what I have quoted are the feelings that Zia had when she first got alone with him. Given her character as an anxious, introvert, anti-social one, that reaction seems really odd. Either she was only driven by sex, or the author was not consistent in her character qualities and fluctuated between various character types including an anxious introvert and a sex maniac.

[NancyDrew12]

I loved Zia personally though I can admit she was very flawed. I think she was a victim of her past and tried to overcome that in the wrong way.

[Sushan Ekanayake]

I think Zia just had self discipline issues. After she made a commitment to Bryce, she should have been able to control herself. I think Bryce was a little too forgiving of such a serious failure. It speaks to her character.

I am not sure whether it was a disciplinary issue. She never expressed anything out of control in her usual life. She was anxious, and that is the only flaw that was there until she met Baxter. Then suddenly she was full of lust and even cheated on Bryce. Is it merely an self disciplinary issue, or did she gave herself simply in for her sexual needs?

[Sushan Ekanayake]

I think she is not a sexaholic. She still has feelings for her opposite and does not recklessly pick some random guy on the street to have sex with her. I just think she is very confident with her sex life.

Being addicted for sex and being reckless in sex is two different things. Yes, Zia did not sleep with random guys, and when she was given such a chance she was rational enough to see that it was wrong. But seemingly she was addicted to have sex with Baxter. She knew that it was wrong, yet she could not come back till the end. What does that make her, a sexaholic or not?

[Sushan Ekanayake]

No, if she were a sexaholic there would be a lot more men on her roster than just Bryce or Baxter. She's insecure and feels that her worth lies in men finding her attractive. Insecurity can lead people to do a lot of foolish things.

Bryce loved her and cared for her. He saw her beauty and she knew that. The only thing that she did not get from Bryce was sexual satisfaction. Sex was nowhere in her 'feeling insecurity' package until she met Baxter, and then only she entangled in the love triangle. Was it merely to get rid of the feeling of insecurity? Or did she really crave for sex?

[Sushan Ekanayake]

I won't use the word sexaholic for her. She might have had sex a quite number of times but it was limited to only certain persons, she didn't sleep with everyone she met.

To be a sexaholic does not require to sleep with everyone you meet. We see that sex and the need for that was quite a big part of her, and that lead her to sexually involve with Baxter while having another lover. And she needed sex quite frequently, as even she was addicted to it. What else can we name her other than a sexaholic?

[Arthur Tobenna]

Zia is not a sexaholic. She simply has a high sexual libido, and is very confident in her sexuality. She has two very attractive men in her life and simply stays true to her character.

[Kasun Perera]

I find it quite difficult to answer your questions. What I see is that the author, either intentionally or unintentionally, made Zia's character inconsistent. The introvert (as others see her) who suffered from anxiety disorder suddenly becomes confident enough to get into a love triangle when her sexual needs arise. Suddenly an introvert became a phlegmatic person, which is quite unusual.

[Sushan Ekanayake]

I wouldn’t say she was a sexaholic only because if the roles were reversed and it was a man doing the same thing he would be considered a player with great sex appeal to the opposite sex. So in this case I would say that she is a women with sex appeal to the opposite sex and uses it to its fullest. No caring to what the consequences may be.

I am not discriminating any gender. If it feels so let's use the word 'playgirl' for Zia. Sex appeal can be accepted in any person. But Zia was not any usual person but was introverted and suffering from anxiety disorder. How did she suddenly became, if not a sexaholic, a phlegmatic character?

[Sushan Ekanayake]

I think Zia is just a woman who has a high libido, she knows what she desires and she's bold and confident enough to go for what she wants. I wouldn't call her a 'sexaholic.'

Well, let's agree that she was a woman with high libido and was bold and confident when it came to satisfying her needs. But why she waited such a long time to show that boldness and confidence? Even her family members who knew her for a long time recognized her as an introverted, anti-social person. What caused this sudden change?

[Sushan Ekanayake]

The author painted Zia's desire vividly. However, I'm of the opinion that calling her a "sexaholic" is too strict on her. She's just a woman with needs that needs to be met.

I too agree that the author has portrayed not only Zia's sexual desires but all the sexual encounters vividly. But I disagree when you name Zia as a woman with needs to be met. Yes, women have needs. But how many of them go to another man to fulfill them when they are already in a relationship, and get entangled in a love triangle? Maybe Zia was not a sexaholic, but her behaviour was not normal either.

[Sushan Ekanayake]

I found Zia to be humorous but I think she’s like sex quite a lot. However, every protagonist has that 1 characteristic that people either see as a flaw and hate it or see as necessary because the protagonist is just human. I think Zia is just human and I’m sure there are people similar to her out there. also, this particular characteristic of Zia is one of the many things that made me enjoy this book.

Yes, she was a human and she had 'humanly' needs. But if it was just human desire and if she chose to fulfill it as anyone else, then there won't be a love triangle at all. But she had a craving for sex, which she expected from Bryce but did not get. So she turned towards Baxter, just for sex.

It made the story quite enjoyable, I agree. But that definitely took Zia to another level from being a 'simple' woman with 'simple' needs who does 'simple' things to fulfill them.

[Suzer6440 xyz]

This was a steamy book. But I wouldn’t go as far as saying she was a sexaholic. Anxiety definitely helped with her actions and she was clearly not lacking confidence and assertiveness.

[Sushan Ekanayake]

I wouldn't say she was a sexaholic, she just wanted to explore all that has been going through her mind. I think she is an introverted person.

Her family says she is an introvert. But she denies that and accounts what she feel to her anxiety disorder. And with that she could not remain in any long term relationship as well. So, yes, there might a lot of things have been going in her mind, and as we see many of them has to be related to sexual feelings. Maybe she was not an introvert at all, but a phlegmatic character whose character qualities were suppressed by anxiety.