View on relationships

Kelebogile Mbangi · Post by **Kelebogile Mbangi** » 08 Jul 2017, 12:19

masterhawk88 wrote:Both actually. I'd never stand for abuse, but on the other hand, for my kids I think I'd try to make an unfulfilling relationship work.

I agree with this. As long as the relationship is not abusive I would stay. If my husband was really willing to put in the effort too then perhaps we could reignite that spark. Perhaps its only my lack of experience on the matter speaking, but I would stay.

Nwanne Calista China · Post by **Nwanne Calista China** » 08 Jul 2017, 17:02

Instead of staying in abusive relationship or when it becomes a threat to life...pick up courage, take a walk and leave

gali · Post by **gali** » 08 Jul 2017, 23:43

Nwanne Calista China wrote:Instead of staying in abusive relationship or when it becomes a threat to life...pick up courage, take a walk and leave

Well said and I agree!

Donnavila Marie01 · Post by **Donnavila Marie01** » 09 Jul 2017, 03:45

Cjgarland89 wrote:Having been in Nadia's situation I definitely side with her. Abhaive relationships are toxic and it can only hurt the kids and show them what a relationship shouldn't be instead of the opposite.

I strongly support you on this. Not all relationships are worth keeping. There are dangerous bridges which must be burned.

gali · Post by **gali** » 09 Jul 2017, 07:15

Donnavila Marie01 wrote:
Cjgarland89 wrote:Having been in Nadia's situation I definitely side with her. Abhaive relationships are toxic and it can only hurt the kids and show them what a relationship shouldn't be instead of the opposite.
I strongly support you on this. Not all relationships are worth keeping. There are dangerous bridges which must be burned.

One should not stay in a relationship at all costs!

kenw · Post by **kenw** » 09 Jul 2017, 08:03

In a society fueled by lust and a seemingly unquenchable thirst for sex and all things sex related, people have forgotten what love is, this doesn’t apply to everyone.

PRAXIDES · Post by **PRAXIDES** » 09 Jul 2017, 09:21

I take Nadia'side. There is no point in staying in abusive relationship or marriage for the sake of the children if anything you are doing more psychological torture to the kids. Picture a situation where a child grows up seeing his/her dad constantly abuse his/her mom, do you think that kid will have emotional stability? Do you think that kid will grow up respecting or loving the dad? I doubt. Nadia made the right decision,she loves her son and sacrifices a lot to see him happy, she ensures they co-parent and she accommodates her ex- husband's bad behavior for Waleed's sake. Her son enjoys100% love from both sides without being aware of his parents issues. He loves and adores both parents. I think that is a good arrangement for a child.

gali · Post by **gali** » 09 Jul 2017, 10:22

PRAXIDES wrote:I take Nadia'side. There is no point in staying in abusive relationship or marriage for the sake of the children if anything you are doing more psychological torture to the kids. Picture a situation where a child grows up seeing his/her dad constantly abuse his/her mom, do you think that kid will have emotional stability? Do you think that kid will grow up respecting or loving the dad? I doubt. Nadia made the right decision,she loves her son and sacrifices a lot to see him happy, she ensures they co-parent and she accommodates her ex- husband's bad behavior for Waleed's sake. Her son enjoys100% love from both sides without being aware of his parents issues. He loves and adores both parents. I think that is a good arrangement for a child.

I totally agree and think the same.

Penielmike · Post by **Penielmike** » 09 Jul 2017, 11:37

Like Nadia, I believe one should not remain in an abusive relationship for any reason. Such relationships give rise to a population of morally deformed children, and so should not be encouraged.

Muthoni Ikenye · Post by **Muthoni Ikenye** » 09 Jul 2017, 14:53

I think I'd support Yaser on this one for as long as the abuse isn't physical and again depending on the age of the kids.Abuse comes in with lots of complexes but this two factors would be my main determiners

22kcox · Post by **22kcox** » 09 Jul 2017, 14:57

In my opinion, I have never really seen an abusive relationship not affect the children in some type of negative way, therefore getting out of the abusive relationship is what is best for the abused and the children. In order to be the best provider, it is important to take care of yourself so that you can then take care of the kids the in the best way that you can. However, that being said, every situation is different and there is no right answer in the situations of abuse.

gali · Post by **gali** » 09 Jul 2017, 23:52

22kcox wrote:In my opinion, I have never really seen an abusive relationship not affect the children in some type of negative way, therefore getting out of the abusive relationship is what is best for the abused and the children. In order to be the best provider, it is important to take care of yourself so that you can then take care of the kids the in the best way that you can. However, that being said, every situation is different and there is no right answer in the situations of abuse.

Well said and I agree! One should get out of the abusive relationship for the sake of the kids as well. It isn't easy, but then life isn't easy.

Barrack15 · Post by **Barrack15** » 10 Jul 2017, 03:35

I think i will go with Nadia's decission because i can't stand a relationship which is not working only because i want my kids to have a father figure. Because it's like adding salt to an injury. The pretence will soon fade and my kids will leave to remember their parents' marriage life which will affect them in their future relationships.

Belynda White · Post by **Belynda White** » 10 Jul 2017, 04:12

Nothing, I mean nothing, will make me stay in an abusive relationship, not even my kids. I'll rather leave and I'll definitely leave with them.

gali · Post by **gali** » 10 Jul 2017, 04:40

Barrack15 wrote:I think i will go with Nadia's decission because i can't stand a relationship which is not working only because i want my kids to have a father figure. Because it's like adding salt to an injury. The pretence will soon fade and my kids will leave to remember their parents' marriage life which will affect them in their future relationships.

You are right! Indeed it is like "adding salt to an injury".

-- July 10th, 2017, 12:41 pm --

Belynda White wrote:Nothing, I mean nothing, will make me stay in an abusive relationship, not even my kids. I'll rather leave and I'll definitely leave with them.

Well put and I would have acted the same as you, if I was in that position.